29 Oct 09 Feel Good Tips!!
Life tends to overwhelm us over and over again. We seem to focus on
the more negative things life throws our way. This can be very wearing
on our relationships,
so what we need to do is be aware of this fact, first and foremost.
Then we have to sit and really think about a few things that we can do
to battle against that happening.
We should start with the nicest feel good thing, and that is touch.
For couples, touch each other, even if it is just as you pass by.
Cuddling is a good way of touching. Well you all know I am all for
HUGGING!!! Run your hand down your partners back. That's a very sweet
touch. Through their hair is a definite feel good touch. It feels good.
Intimacy is the sweetest way to share your relationship with your
partner. It needs no ears, it needs no eyes. It just needs touch. So
touch someone and feel good!
Respecting one another and giving each other space, when you feel it
is much needed, is truly a show of love. Being there to just
listen.when they are ready to talk after they have had a bad day, is
totally a good thing too.
We all love receiving gifts. I actually love giving them more. I love
pleasing and watching my partners response. It feels good. Surprises
are not just for children. They feel good and they show love in a quiet
way. When you surprise someone with a tiny gift, even just a card, it
kind of whispers to that person how much you love them. Those little
surprises also keep the romance in your life, and we all know how that
can fade away with our everyday craziness. Just to know that your loved
one was actually thinking of you for no reason and took time to
surprise you, is a very sweet and loving thing. Show me the love!(wink)
Compliments are always nice to get or to give and they feel good. I
personally have a problem receiving those. It's just how I am. Giving
your sweetie a compliment in front of others is even sweeter. It sends
a message of truly appreciating them and shows that you have pride your
relationship.
Funny how bad habits can lean the other way. We can easily fall into
the trap of attacking them in front of others and hurting their
feelings. DO NOT DO THAT! If you happen to fall into a disagreement,
have some class and do it with tenderness and love and always follow it
up with a compliment, ASAP.
This is one we all are guilty of and that is judging their ideas, or
turning them down when they are just starting to tell you about them.
When you are at this point, stop for a minute and think about what they
are trying to share. Then if you still are against it, tell them softly
and with a smile. We all think differently and we do not all share the
same opinions and that's cool. It is how we send that message across
that determines the outcome of that conversation. Its all about
self-esteem. Soft and loving ways of communication help to raise ones
esteem. It also usually leads to a very nice touch or HUG! (prrz)
Ignoring the other person or treating them like they are not there is
a very, very hurtful thing to do. It is down right mean. Even if you
are angry at them, try to remember, this is the one you love, and the
one that loves you. There is a saying; "You only hurt the ones you
love". Well it's time to change that saying. "Love the one you love"!
Yes, its OK to get angry and state your anger to your significant
other if they caused you some pain. We all have to do that at times,
but just remember that your mate also feels bad for making you angry.
Think about not having that person ever again and maybe that will help
you to not let the meanness creep in.
Here is a hard one for me. Shut your mouth and open your ears.(eek)
Just to know you are being heard is such a good feeling. But to also
know you are being understood is totally awesome. These are very
important things to a good communication which leads to, you know what?
Mhm..HUGGZZ
Ever hear of the small voice as opposed to the big voice? Well use
your small voice as much as you can. Over half of our communication is
based on sound levels or tones. When we keep our sound levels soft, we
keep our partners ears open and this allows them to hear us. This keeps
our messages flowing and communication open. Many tense discussions are
solved this way.
"I love you", are the three most important words a person
understandsands and it feels good. They are music to our ears and we
all love good music. So just say it, now and every day.
One thing about saying those three words; say them, like you mean them.
That is a very good thing!
What do we crave when we are down and out? What do we yearn for when
we feel trapped in a pit of loneliness? Support, love, patience,
understanding and last but not least.....HUGGGGGZZZZ!
So all my sweet readers I leave you a quote that I find fitting for my
thoughts that I have shared with you today to feel good. A very sweet
friend from Canada sent this to me.
Sasha girl..Thank you! HUGGZZZ
"To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance"
-Oscar Wilde
About the author: Dorothy Lafrinere Owner/Operater Website- http://www.womensselfesteem.com Weblog- http://www.justblogme.com/Dorothy Forum- http://womenselfesteem.proboards29.com email- dorothy@womensselfesteem.com
