11 Nov 09 Men and Women COLLIDE!
Ever been in a situation in your life when your entire world seems to
COLLIDE with itself? I am sure we all can raise our hands to that
question. There are many ways to COLLIDE in life. Some ways can be
sweet and others, downright nasty.
In relationships we tend to COLLIDE, toe to toe more often than we
want. We COLLIDE in the way we differ in our thoughts with our
partner. We COLLIDE in how we perceive each others reactions. We tend
to COLLIDE in our gender views. For that we can that we can thank
Mother Nature! We COLLIDE in what we enjoy in the entertainment
department, sexual fantasies, favorite restaurants, spending money,
vehicles of our choice, and even how we brush our teeth, but to
COLLIDE with a loved one is not always a bad thing. It can actually
force a certain reality into your relationship. Can you imagine going
on through life with a partner and never, ever colliding? (zzzzzzz)
Yup, boring! It would be like two mindless, passionless, dependant,
robots, maintaining there actions on the same monotone level day after
day after day. No HUGGZ, no SMILZ, no LAUGHTER. Ugh and NO SEX! I mean
can you imagine two robots having sex. Again I say, "BORING"!
We need to COLLIDE to spice things up, to know that we are alive and
that our partners are also alive. When we COLLIDE it awakens our
deepest passions which we both need to feel, in order to go into a
deeper love for one another. I know you are thinking that to COLLIDE
only causes war and indifference. You are mostly correct, but how can
we know peace with out war? How can we revive or continue to gain in
our passions without a true honest COLLIDE between each other? We
cannot. When do you have the best sex ever? Think about it. It's
almost always after a very loud COLLIDE and it usually starts over
something very simple. But oh is the sex GOOD!(MHHHHMM) The simple
things that cause us to COLLIDE are hardly ever the real cause of the
battle. We tend to put things aside for whatever reason, or we just
plain do not want the other person to know that we are human with
feelings and that maybe we don't like some of the things that they do
or say. We choose to put it on a shelf. I call that shelf, the first
step to a major COLLIDE. Some of us stack a whole lot of
disappointments and worries on that shelf and others not so many. Some
deal with them right off, so that they COLLIDE lightly. For the ones
that stack them up, they are the ones that are usually in for a huge
COLLIDE. The more weight we carry the heavier the burden, and the more
pain we suppress, the harder we strike back, causing us to COLLIDE
hard!
We never COLLIDE in that way with people we do not feel love for. We
just do not care that much for them. We do COLLIDE with the people
closest to us though. It's because we are almost "one being". We know
each others weak points and which buttons to push to get them hurting.
We also have a very huge investment in our relationship and we do not
take anything that threatens it lightly. This is another big reason we
COLLIDE. We also learn a lot more about ourselves through each COLLIDE
that we experience with our partner. We are not perfect and we are
never on top of our mistakes or bad habits. Half of the time we don't
even see them until that reality of COLLIDE knocks us down. It's very
important to take a fair blame when we COLLIDE though. We are after
all, in a partnership and we are in it 50/50. No one person can
COLLIDE alone. How often do you stand in the mirror and COLLIDE with
yourself? HA! Not too often, I would think. So it does take two to
COLLIDE. As the old saying goes,"It takes two to make it and two, to
break it."
For the love and passion to grow in our relationship and to continue
to grow, we need to COLLIDE sometimes! It's like breathing to live a
healthy life. Our feelings of being accepted, strengthen and nurture
our self esteem, which allows us to love our partners with a deeper
passion. We are also happier and feel almost cleansed and ready to
start again after we have passed through a major COLLIDE.
Relationships are all about the up's and down's of each persons life.
How we deal with them and accept them makes the COLLIDE all that much
easier to get through. It is perfectly OK to take a time out after the
initial COLLIDE. We tend to need to re-group and let our guard down
and let in the new passion that awaits us. Once you feel your feet are
back on the ground and you can sense your partner is at the same
level, then HUG and HUG and HUG. Then it is make up time and you know
what that means. MHM....SEX...SEX...SEX! Now this does not mean that
you have to COLLIDE just to have good sex. JEESH not at all! It is
just that there are different hormones after a COLLIDE that gets ones
blood rushing. Also it really is a good thing to forgive and forget. I
know, that is not an easy task. As humans we tend to keep ammunition
for our survival. Who likes to eat food that's has already been chewed
up?
NOONE! So then imagine bringing up old history as having to re-chew
food. I am trying to make it sound that simple. Sometimes when we
think simply about things, they are easier to forget. Relationships
are very important, so do not forget why you committed to your
partner. Remember, they too are investing their life to make a life
with you. There is no upper hand in a relationship. It is a
partnership of equal love and respect. Both parties have the right to
expect those two things. We are human and we do error. It is very
important to let each other express our differences and accept them to
a point. Through every COLLIDE we grow closer together even when we
feel like our world has just turned upside down. TRUE LOVE never dies.
One of the best ways to COLLIDE, is when we COLLIDE skin to skin or
toes to toes! That is a positive COLLIDE, that is essential to the
survival of a relationship.
Dorothy
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"Don`t waste your ammunition shooting at scarecrows"
Toni Sciarra Poynter
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